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#06 - Cup


Many of us ask the question " Why me?". Smiling guys? Well I have asked like thousand times to myself "Why me?" but never got answer to that question. Let us see what happened when someone asked me the same question.

I happened to meet my school friend in a marriage function. She is the Miss fame during the high school days. I have never spoke a word to her, and I am one of the humiliating species in her list, but to the surprise she smiled at me and she was with me the whole time in the function. When we were leaving, she asked me "Can we hang out for few hours?"

We went to a park, she sat down and asked me "How are you? How is your life?" I replied her "It is good". I just looked her back with a question on  my face. She understood my reaction " Yeah , I have humiliated , insulted even have tore you down in school but right now I feel like only you can possibly the one to comfort me". She continued " I feel like I lost everything, my talent, confidence, family, friends, job everything totally my life. I can't even possibly imagine how my future is going to be" tears started to roll down slowly on her cheeks. I said " Hey come on, life is difficult at 20's for everyone. Nobody figures their life at 20's, don't think it is the end." She went little overboard and started to sob " I know Rithi, but I am asking why it has to be me? why I should be the one to face this? I mean it was perfect, but now how did this happen to me? And why it is happening to me alone?". I did not have answer to her. I hugged her and let her cry completely. Eventually her tears stopped, she rubbed her face, wiped off the tears and looked at me and asked "Did my mascara come off?" I laughed and said "You haven't changed a bit". It brought smile in her face too. We chatted other things too, then when I dropped her at her place, " You should not ask Why me ? because you never ask Why me ? when you were smiling, so logically you don't have rights to ask why me? when you are crying" She looked little shocked. I continued " But it doesn't mean you can't ask that question to me, you can ask me, but don't expect answer, expect comfort, that is possible" She smiled. I bid bye and came home.

We never ask lord why me when we were having fun. We ask that question only when we have problem. If you have a problem, write down it, search it in google, you will get about 1000 links telling about the people facing the same problem, so technically we are not the only one facing it. But it doesn't mean we can't ask it, just we can't expect answer to that. Happiness gives smile. Sadness gives tear. It is like if you put a seed for mango, you will get mango, don't expect an apple in mango tree. Eventually everything will pass. Sometimes you don't get answers to the question, because the question is wrong. 

Stop asking Why me? Instead ask What have you planned for me? 

Think with a cup of coffee and have a sip in it. 

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